We find a perplexing passuk( which means “This isn't the last word” or “It's not over yet.” Sof means “end” and pasuk (pah-SOOK) is a verse in the Bible (with pasuk muzikali meaning “musical phrase”), such that the term literally means “end of the verse.”) Which is regarding Yaakov's love for Rachel. In describing the seven years Yaakov was forced to wait before he could marry Rachel, the Torah tells us:that: He felt that the years he waited were like just a few days due to his love for her (Bereishit 29:20). Now, isn't the exact reverse is true? A severe case of longing typically occurs when someone loves someone or even something, but is momentarily prevented in some way. For instance, if a wedding is postponed, this may worry people till the big day. It feels like time is moving more slowly than a turtle. So how can we understand why, despite Yaakov's immense love for his future bride Rachel, it felt like "just a few days"? Most people, misunderstand the true essence of love. Love should not be viewed as a pleasurable experience when shared with someone who is pleasurable to be around. True love is the desire within a person to contribute and support the beloved, or to honor and encourage the beloved. This is the Hebrew meaning of the word Love: Ahavah (אהבה). This word Ahava derives from the root word [Hey,Vet] הב , the Aramaic meaning of “to give”." Love is a verb, not an emotion or a state of mind. The phrases "I'm in love" do not express a Hebraic notion.
The seven years that Yaakov worked for Rachel felt like just a few days because Yaakov's love for her was for her – and not for himself. On the other hand, when someone is awaiting pleasure , seven years feels like eternity. Thus, the passuk is telling us that Yaakov's love for Rachel was rooted in the spiritual.
How can one know what kind of love one has for another person? Try this test:
If Eliyahu Hanavi would come to you just before your wedding, and tell you that your best friend would be a much better spouse for your “intended” than you, what would you do? Would your love for the person you thought was your spouse-to-be impel you to reveal to him or her what Eliyahu Hanavi told you?
This is what Yaakov would have done because this was the kind of selfless love that he had for Rachel. He only wanted to give. This is true love. Hebraic love.