I heard someone on a coaching/consulting/sales call that I had the other day that said: ''thank you so much for helping me with my self confidence, I need a scolding because I keep thinking bad about myself.'' I was like WTF! omg!!! THIS IS IT! This is one of the roots of the dualistic judgment based programmed mind that in order to experience transformation and change and evolution it must come from scolding, shame, guilt, etc. NOT TRUE!!!! so not true!! And this is a ''belief'' this girl is holding without knowing it at all. I say the opposite! you do NOT need a scolding, you need a HOLDING!! HOLD AND LOVE YOURSELF so you feel like you deserve the positive and blessed results of your growth and therefore you do it from a place of love and joy. NOT a place of fear. Hope you enjoy this detailed explanation of the programmed phenomena of our minds!