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Hello guys, lovely to be back and, um,
excited today to be talking
about why triggers are not
your enemy.
And the reason that I wanted to talk
to you about triggers today is because
we are going through
very interesting times,
as I've mentioned many times
in my podcasts collectively,
as we go through this
kind of energetic shift
that started in 2020, well, it
actually started before that,
but in terms of our direct
experience on a collective level,
in a tangible 3d way, it
really started in 2020. And,
and it's going to be very tangible
in the 3d collective until about
2025.
So we are kind of on our
way to halfway there.
And in this experience,
we're basically moving from a
very 3d based reality into a fifth
dimensional based reality.
And we are passing through,
what's known as like the fourth
dimension and the fourth dimension is
a, an experience. All of these
dimensions I'm talking about,
even though our sci-fi fantasy
movies are all very sort of, um,
they portray ideas of
dimensionality about, you know,
an external experience that we might
have actually what's happening is on a
quantum level. It's on an internal level.
And as we move through
this energetic shift,
what we are actually experiencing
dimensionally is shifts within
ourselves and moving from
this very dense, heavy,
3d energy that we've all
been in for millennia.
We are now going through this really
powerful,
transformative fiery experience internally
every single one of us
in this five year period,
as we basically clear through
all this dense energy in our
being and become more connected with
our actual soul selves, if
you like our more authentic,
um, light being soul selves.
And in the process of going
through this dimensional
shift,
what's happening is we are
being exposed to a lot more
light energy. And as I've
explained in other podcasts,
what this does is it kind
of throws awareness on the
parts of ourselves that are
dark and dense. And,
and that experience is really
unpleasant in many ways. And,
and as we've all witnessed and continue
to witness in this very turbulent time,
these experiences are
being manifested on many
different levels in many different ways.
And as we move through these experiences,
we are learning more and more about who
we are and the person that we want to
become.
And that is the dimensional
shift because everything
happening on a quantum level
is basically on this level
that is to get technical about
it from a quantum physics
perspective. As I understand it,
you have the Newtonian reality,
which is basically everything that we
see in this 3d reality that responds to
gravity essentially. And then
you have the quantum reality,
which is basically anything
less than a thousand of an
inch. Once you go below that point,
once you drop to that size and less,
that's when you are in
a quantum ex reality,
a quantum experience,
and the rules of that reality are
very different to the rules of
the Newtonian reality that we are
very used to, which is very dense,
which takes a long, you know, which, which
you need, you know, energy to create.
Um, oh my God, you can tell how bad my
physics is now. <laugh>, but you know,
on a very 3d reality, you can't move
things with your mind, you know,
whereas on the quantum level, if
you go to YouTube and you look up,
um, the experiment,
what that basically demonstrates
from a quantum physics perspective
is that light energy
can be directed or affected by
intention. Okay. I real,
I've gone off on a complete tangent to
what I wanted this originally wanted this
podcast to be, but I was
gonna trust it and go with it.
And you're all gonna learn a lot more
than I was expecting you to <laugh>.
But the SL experiment is basically an,
an experiment whereby
they set up this, um,
a light experiment to see how
light moved and to see what
functions it moved in,
and whether it moved in a wave
function or a scattered, you know,
chaotic way.
And what they discovered was
that the light would move in a
chaotic way,
right up until they used
a camera to film the
experiment.
And as soon as there was an
observer on this experiment,
the movement of these particles
changed from a chaotic array
into a directive wave
pattern.
And what they realized was
that in the quantum world,
the intention of the observer has
an impact on how energy moves.
And, and so this was,
this is like mind blowing
stuff for scientists,
because it didn't fit in with the
traditional understanding of how
energy moves, how energy works.
But what it does do is actually explain
a lot of the work that I do from
a very sort of metaphysical
energetic perspective,
because as an energy healer, for example,
when I'm working with someone's body,
whether that's online or in
person, it doesn't matter.
And this is why everyone always asks me,
how do you do energy healing
through the computer?
It's got nothing to do with the computer.
<laugh> all I do is focus on my client's
energy field and through my intention,
I can affect change in their field
by supporting, um, intention of health.
So I basically use what
what's known as in treatment.
And this is what, where the
strongest vibration in the room
essentially
sets the tone for the, the
energy everywhere around it.
And it's like someone walking into a
party and turning around and saying,
oh my God, we need to have more fun.
And then the whole party's sort of waking
up and being like, yeah, you're right.
We do.
And everyone having heat more fun than
they were before that one person arrived.
That's kind of what entrainment is.
It's the strongest energy being
dropped into a soup of energy
and the rest of that
soup lining up with it.
And so when you do energy healing,
you set an intention and you hold that
intention for the person that you are
working with. That's one of love
of healing, of, you know, peace,
whatever it might be.
And you wait until their
system aligns with your
intention. And if this all sounds
really woo, woo, and really out there,
I totally get it, but go and look
at the, the slipped experiment.
I think it's called the bell
theum and it's a quantum physics
experiment. And it literally
proves that subject,
that everything in our reality
essentially is subjective. And that,
you know, I mean,
we all know that everything even
dense material things are all
atoms molecules,
all vibrating at different speeds held
together with this soup of energy.
And when you understand
how quantum physics works,
you understand how these
material things can change.
And that's a lot of the basis
of manifestation. However,
I'm not gonna drop into any of this
now further than I already have.
What I wanted to,
to basically point out
was that when we have
a trigger, oh, sorry,
what I wanted to point
out was the shift that we
are going through collectively is
happening on a quantum level within
us. And the,
the way that this is manifesting
is that all our fears,
our doubts, our insecurities,
all of these feelings are a
type of energy, excuse me,
a type of vibration,
which is holding our
physical being in, in,
in stress, in, in illness,
in some cases in pain in others. And,
and as we go through this shift,
what we are being invited
to do is basically move
through that discomfort and release that
energy from our system.
And the way we are being asked
to do that is by being triggered.
Yay. I got there.
<laugh> the way we are
being triggered is by global
situations,
which seem really terrifying
and which might trigger within
our sense of a sense of
helplessness or outrage or utility,
or just downright fear.
And all these triggers are
forcing us to face what is going on
internally for us. I
dunno if you remember,
but at the beginning of COVID like
everyone was really, you know,
in a state of shock really,
and not sure how to navigate the situation
because the powers at B didn't have a
clue either essentially.
And we all knew it. And,
and it was the first time that
on a collective global level,
we all realized that there was no
backup plan. There was no safety net.
And,
and that threw up a whole
bunch of issues for all of
us to navigate internally. And, you know,
at the beginning of COVID everyone,
there was a big VAX debate. I mean,
there's still a big VAX debate,
but it was extremely potent
right at the beginning.
And then as we moved through, COVID like,
I witnessed people around me who at
the beginning of COVID were very like
everyone needs a VAX and other people
were like, no one must have the VAX.
And there was two very distinct camps.
And then as we moved through COVID I
noticed that people became much more
kind of flexible in what they were,
were ex willing to accept in others.
We became more tolerant of
other people's opinions.
And that was because
through this experience,
we'd had to navigate our
own internal responses.
And through that process had moved
through some of our own hangups
about what we thought was
right and wrong. And, you know,
triggers are very driven by our
personal beliefs about what is
right and what is wrong. And
they're not just on a global level,
like our family members, our friends,
our, our partners, our work colleagues,
they are continually doing
things that might trigger
responses within us.
And what we have a tendency
to do is to blame them
for causing us pain, for creating,
suffering in our being.
And yet the irony is,
is that they're really just doing
them. I mean, that's all they're doing.
They're, they've got their own issues
and triggers that are no doubt,
go flying off for whatever reason,
but they are showing up in the world
just doing what they think is best.
Just like we are, everyone's
doing the same thing.
We're all just trying to navigate this
thing called life, as best as we can.
And in the process,
when we are being triggered by
other people, we have a choice.
We can blame them for the discomfort and
suffering that we are experiencing in
our own system because of the perceived
behaviors or actions that they're
doing to create pain in our being.
Or we can recognize that the trigger okay.
And even the clues in the title, right.
<laugh> the word trigger indicates
that something is being catalyzed.
Okay. And that's essentially
it, these outside experiences,
whether they're from the news or
from people we know are acting as
catalyst for our internal work,
our internal healing, if you like,
and it's up to us to
decide whether we wanna
stay in a place of, I mean,
even being in full
awareness of our triggers,
and I get this a lot with clients who
come in and they'll sit in front of me and
they'll be like, okay, I've done
a lot of work. I know my triggers.
And I'm like, that's really
great. That's awesome.
But what about the next step?
Because to me the next step,
that's where the gold lies. It's one thing
to understand what your triggers are.
But what we wanna avoid is ending up
in a situation where we are continually
creating life experiences that
protect us from our triggers,
because all we are doing then is
actually limiting ourselves from
expanding and experiencing
life, as fully as we can,
when we can face our triggers,
then we have the opportunity
to move through them.
And it's a bit like walking
through fog, but I'll get through,
I'll get to that in a minute. What
I mean by facing our triggers,
it doesn't necessarily mean going to
the family Christmas where that person,
that you really don't like is, and
knowing that you are gonna get triggered,
but going anyway and, you
know, just biting your lip,
that's not actually what I mean at all,
facing your triggers doesn't
require any external experience
facing your triggers is an inside job.
And when you are focusing
on your inside experience,
your internal experience,
that is where the work can
really be transformative
because staying in a place of blame,
staying in a place of projection,
I E insisting that it's not you,
it's the people outside of you
that are creating your suffering.
If you are determined
to stay in that place,
if you are determined to fight for
your limitations, by all means,
go ahead.
But my only concern about that
is that you may not be living
the happiest life that you could be,
or the most fulfilling life
that you could be because you,
when we blame other people, we end
up in this kind of place of stasis,
static, pause. If you like,
because in blaming somebody else,
what we do is we kind
of give them our power.
We make them responsible for our pain,
but also for our happiness.
And if that person say is your
father from your childhood,
and you blame him for your insecurities
or your self-judgment or whatever
it might be, if you are living in that
place or your life, the chances are,
you're probably not gonna have
great relationships with other men.
And you're gonna consistently experience
mental health issues because you have
this ongoing narrative that's probably
adopted from your father that you've now
internalized and made your
own, but this is it, right?
We take the experiences we have and we
have the choice. We internalize them,
or we don't. And it's really
interesting to observe, you know,
there's so many different family dynamics,
how one child in a family will internalize
all their parents crap and make it
their own. And another child
won't, they'll come out
unscathed and just be like,
well, that was them. I'm gonna do me. And,
and one kid's stuck in it
and the other kid's not. And,
and it's not that one, kid's got
it wrong. We are all naturally
inclined because of our
per our in unique makeup.
I was the kid that took
all the stuff. My brother,
he was outta there <laugh>
but in taking all this stuff,
I've now realized because I've chosen
to work through it and continue to do it
is that I have created my own freedom
by taking ownership of the fact that yes,
my parents showed up in a way that
probably wasn't that helpful at that time.
But it's on me to decide what I do
from this moment, going forward.
Do I make their narrative,
my internal narrative,
or do I start to change it?
How long am I gonna let
my past predict my future?
Or when am I gonna be the
actual creator of my experience?
And as soon as we are willing to
take ownership for our own triggers,
to recognize that our
triggers are literally just
highlighting the parts of
us that need some attention,
that is all that they
are doing. And trust me,
I know firsthand how
tempting it is to blame
somebody else for our trigger.
Oh my God. I hated that. So,
and so said that I can't believe they
did it. They're so insensitive X, Y, Z,
but I know that I can let
that just sit and simmer in my
being and just feel Ugh,
for a long time. Or,
and this is what I do
now, when I'm triggered,
I will go off on my own and I
will sit with my eyes closed and I
will consciously feel it.
I will call in the feeling that is
horrible to me, and I will turn it up.
And I say to my system,
I want to feel all of this, all of it.
And I will not stop until I have
felt all of it until it's very,
very drugs and,
and what I've witnessed and
it's different for everyone.
But I get taken on this very sort of
visual journey and this kind of fear or
anger or whatever,
the thing that's coming up tends to
kind of go through this death process.
And I know that it's just part of my
ego dying, but don't get me wrong.
It can be really intense
and it can be really
overwhelming. But,
and this is what I mentioned
earlier about the fog to me,
it's like walking through fog.
And if you've done that you'll know
that sometimes it can get really scary.
Like you'll walk through fog and
it will suddenly get really dense.
And you'll like, oh, oh my God,
am I ever gonna get out of here?
Which way is up. But if you
keep walking through it,
it does actually begin to part and
you do get to the other side of it,
but you have to keep going.
And what I've recently discovered,
which is an added bonus to all of this,
is that not only does doing that,
obviously it actually really
clears it from your system.
So I've done this work heaps,
and I know how powerful valuable it is.
And I remember when I first sat down
to clear all my energy around money,
it took two days.
So beware that you might need to just
keep revisiting it because life happens.
Right. Okay. So I'll do an hour and
then I have to stop because you know,
whatever the reason might be,
but then I'll go back to it.
So you may not feel like Yippy a
hundred immediately, but do keep going.
Because now, like my
system is just at peace.
I can say the word money and the word
cauliflower, and they have no difference.
And that by the way, is a good
test to know. <laugh> like,
when you can see UN unless coli
flour is triggering for you,
by which so by all means, use
another word like coal or something,
really like wood,
something that has no
triggering attachment for you
and weigh it up against, you
know, relationships love. Um,
what are the other things
that trigger us, uh, anger,
like whatever it might be,
but use it to use another word.
That's very inanimate to compare
it against and just observe
this, this, the difference in your system.
And what you'll find is that you'll then
be able to go out into these situations
and not be triggered at all. And
it's so epic, cuz you're like, ah,
freedom.
And you realize people say
this to me so often I'm like,
what do you want more than anything?
And they're like, Hey, I want freedom.
But what they think freedom is, is
freedom from their physical situation.
I tell you this now freedom
is a mental situation.
It's a mindset. Freedom comes from within.
So using the, the,
like your feelings and your commitment
to moving through your feelings is
super, super powerful. So
do please, please do it.
<laugh> um, and what I discovered
the other day, actually,
by listening to Elizabeth
April, who is pretty epic, um,
you can find her on YouTube
and she's like a, she's very,
uh,
spiritual <laugh> to say the least she
is a channeler for all kinds of different
things. So go and check her out. I
don't want to muddy the waters. You,
you go and decide whether
she's something for you or not.
But what she did say that I found really
interesting and confirmed a lot of what
I'd already kind of intuitively
experienced was that when you
sit and feel through this,
all these things coming up where
you actually have the opportunity
to shift your karma, okay. And karma,
it has traditionally been and is, um,
energy that's come from past lives
and through generational bloodlines.
So karma from your
parents, your ancestors,
as well as karma from your past lives,
coming into this experience through
your being that is that you are here
to kind of work through now for centuries
in order to work through your karma.
You've had to reincarnate
to come and do it all again,
to live that karma experience
and have a different outcome
because of,
of this energetic shift we are moving
through right now because of the increased
energy that we are all being exposed
to and the powerful energy that we are
moving into and the DNA activations
that we're all experiencing.
As we move from third D into 5g,
we are actually able now
to clear our karma in this
life and the way we do it
is by feeling through it.
So sitting with your own stuff,
if you like has so many
advantages right now,
and I cannot recommend it enough. So
Hopefully that has cleared up
triggers for you. <laugh> and,
and hopefully you'll take away
from this if nothing else is that,
even when you feel triggered in
the moment just saying to yourself,
this is a part of me that needs healing.
This is a part of me that needs
attention. That needs, love,
whatever you wanna call it.
But recognizing that this is not
something that's being done to you,
this is something that's
being done for you.
And it's an opportunity
just that shift alone
can make a really powerful,
beneficial shift to the way
that you experience life.
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