Fear is a great survival mechanism that propels us to seek a connection to another human being who can help us feel safe. When our survival is threatened, our brain triggers a series of physiological reactions designed to prepare our body to face the perceived threat. The part of the brain that deals with fear is the same related to attachment which means that attachment is the antidote to fear. Because the connection to an attachment figure is so important, we fear being abandoned and rejected by our loved ones. Since we are babies, we send bids for connection to our attachment figures. When they are responsive, accessible, and emotionally engaged, we feel safe and protected. If they do not know how to respond, or if we cannot detect their response, we feel anxious and fearful. If the disconnection persists for a long time, we may develop trust issues. It may be difficult for us to trust our loved ones and we might think that we don't deserve their love. As a result, we may fear losing them and we might look for signs that confirm our fears.