Are you a confidence builder or buster? A confidence-builder is something or someone that makes you feel significant, confident, and secure. Confidence-busters are things that shake your confidence or make you feel less than “good enough.” Relationships and intimacy work better when we know how to build and boost our spouse's, children's, friend's, and family members confidence. Each of us have a confidence language and expression and they can either compliment or compete with those we are in relationship with. You are either a confidence buster or builder. Which is it?