Some relationships don't fall apart because there's no love — they fall apart because you keep trying to “fix” a feeling you can't name. If you've ever thought, “Why do I feel fine alone, but incomplete with someone… or like something is missing unless they show up a certain way?”…you're not too needy, too intense, or “bad at relationships.” You might be living out a Split Definition pattern — where your energy is designed with a natural gap, and your mind turns that gap into a story: it's me… or it's you.
In today's episode, we break down what Split Definition actually is (simple vs. wide splits), why it can create that push-pull dynamic inside partnerships, and how to stop outsourcing wholeness to the people you love.
Learn:
Why Split Definition can feel like “something is missing” (and why you're not broken)
How to tell if you're Single definition, Simple Split, Wide Split, Triple split, or Quad split
Why Simple Splits tend to internalize it (“something is wrong with me”)
Why Wide Splits tend to externalize it (“something is wrong with you”)
How “bridging gates” work (and why certain people feel like relief)
Why Split Definition teaches cooperation in relationships
How conditioning turns the “bridge” into a relationship trap
How to stop looking for “completion” in a partner
Why relationship advice online often fails (it's too generic)
How to ask for what you need without self-abandoning
Why emotional authority + non-emotional partners can feel out of sync
How to use your Strategy & Authority to reduce relationship friction
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